How to Get Out of a Rut and Connect With Yourself Again

I really wanted to start this blog post with something other than the pandemic, but the truth is… The lockdowns, the restrictions, the stress - this whole situation has made a lot of changes in our lives.

One of the biggest changes was being thrown out of our usual ways.

Many of us started rethinking our lives, our work, our future, our happiness… It made us question everything - and for some, it was exciting and hopeful, while for others it was quite scary.

Questioning everything can mean starting almost from scratch again, and that thought can make you disconnect from yourself.

I experienced that first-hand.

After I took the leap last year and left my leadership role to work for myself, I realised that it also meant working from home. I thought I would love that flexibility - and I do! - but as time went by, it became more and more clear to me...

I’m a people person, I love hanging out with co-workers, grabbing a cup of coffee with a friend, or simply being surrounded by people. Therefore, working from home ultimately made me feel kinda “blah”.

Now, not everyone is like that. If you enjoy working from home, that’s great! But this is about recognising when we’re doing things just because it’s easier than changing. Tell me if you relate to this...

I stopped doing the things that light me up. I was in a bit of a rut and I could feel that on my energy levels.

When I realised that, everything changed. And I’m here to help you do the same.

This blog post is addressed to you - the woman who feels stuck in a rut, unable to get the motivation to get out of it.

You’ve been doing the same thing over and over again, following a boring routine that doesn’t inspire or motivate you. Your feelings are either all over the place or numb, and that dents your self-confidence and creativity.

You know that something’s not quite right, you know there’s something you can do and you WANT to do it, but you can’t seem to find the energy to start.

I get it. That’s exactly why I wanted to put together this blog post - to nudge you to take the action needed to reignite your spark.

And stick until the end for an exciting opportunity that I've been preparing behind the scenes to help you get amazing results and FEEL a change right away.

The work-life balance issues all over again

If you’ve been following me for a little while, you know that I’m not an advocate for the old “work-life balance”. It relies too much on self-limiting beliefs, making us play small and feeling like we need to get ALL the work done before we can have fun or relax. It doesn’t serve us!

The reason I’m bringing this up is that one of the things that leads to being stuck in a rut is burnout. Working from home blurs out some boundaries that existed previously, and studies show that many workers tend to spend significantly more time working or worrying about work because they can’t detach themselves from it as easily.

Not to mention that some employees have gotten an overload of work to help the company cope with the current situation…

That’s why we need to shift our focus from balance to INTEGRATION.

The work-life integration means that you weave time for yourself DURING the workday/work week. It means taking the time to check in with yourself, get re-energised, and clear your mind.

That spark you have in yourself? It can’t shine as bright if you keep running at 100 mph and only allow yourself to slow down at 9 pm or on weekends.

So, make yourself a priority and work around that as much as possible.

What can you do about it?

The best decision I’ve made when I felt that blah feeling was to take small actions.

I made small changes during the week to feel in control again, to take ownership of my wellbeing.

For example, I ditched the gym gear on work days and I decided to spend at least 2 work days a week at a co-working space or coffee shop - wherever I can see some smiles around me.

Some days, I catch a yoga class or have lunch with a friend in the middle of the day.

Can you guess how that helps?

I show up to continue my work day feeling so much more productive and motivated.

That’s what work-life integration can do for you, especially when you feel like you’re stuck in a rut. Being there for yourself will help you reignite your spark.

But, again: the real key here is to start small. Once you get the ball rolling and you’re in a flow, things will pick up from there.

Let’s go even further...

You get the best results when you have a strong support system. Whether that’s your co-workers, friends, family etc., it’s important to have someone to talk to about these things.

Me? I dedicated my business specifically to making strong leaders and women like you feel happy and confident again. My support is all about that.

And when I saw what was going on with the women I talk to, I knew I had to do something - to step in and give you the tools to get you out of the rut.

So, if you’re questioning everything at the moment and you know that something isn’t quite right, but you WANT to make changes, then my one-off 90 minute coaching session (PLUS a week of email support from me) will do the trick.

We’ll get real clarity on how you want to feel and the actions you need to take to get there - you’ll leave feeling super energised and like a weight has been lifted off your shoulders.